Have you ever heard someone say that stress is a silent killer? How about this fiasco that’s being staged by the Government Shutdown? This systematically screws up everything. If you’re worried about the bills you have to pay, whether or not you’re living up to your boss’ expectations, or your relationship is on the rocks, there’s one sure-fire way to make these anxieties go away.
Keep stressing about them and die of heart disease, cancer, or a host of other illnesses that eat away at you every time you let stress dominate your life.
It’s likely that we all experience the effects of stress at some point in our lives. You’re not sure how you’re going to make your next mortgage payment, there’s not enough time in your day to get done everything that needs to get done, or you can’t seem to lose weight despite all of your efforts to stay on your diet.
Often, we’ve got deadlines to meet at work and the kids are pulling at us every which way when we get home. Sometimes we just can’t seem to come to a place of peace; a space in our center where everything is okay.
Stress is not something that “happens to us.”You might think that everyone and everything else is contributing to all the stress that you’re feeling. You may feel that if THEY or IT would just go away and leave you alone you’d be free to enjoy life as you see it. This ugly, burdensome, sneaky, and pushy thing that we call stress may seem like it rears its head as a result of situations that “happen” to us.
What if I told you that the stress you’re “under” is actually a result of a perception that you hold, and that you are the only one who can kick it to the curb for good? It doesn’t matter what’s going on at work, home, or anywhere else.
You have all the power you need to give stress the boot, but first you need to untie the shackles of fear and allow yourself to look at stress a new way.
Stress is simply our response to demands that are placed on us. Sometimes the demands are physical, such as when we run ourselves ragged working 15-hour days or cheat ourselves of the precious sleep that our bodies need.
At other times, the demands are emotional or intellectual like when we don’t feel confident enough to stand up for ourselves in relationships or when we are not secure enough in our skills to ask for the money that we deserve in our careers.
When we experience stress, we are simply “perceiving “ we are not enough” or that we “don’t have enough.”
When we are stressed, we are thinking from a place of “lack.” Lack of time, resources, skills, money, love, looks, people, things, you name it. The stress that we feel is placed “on” us “BY “ us, and the only one that can get rid of it is US. I am here to help you realize the triggers that bring stress into your life.
My Stress Management Report will help you identify how you are dealing with the demands of the world around you.
The first thing that you need to do to remove stress from your life is to change the way you look at what’s going on inside you and around you.
The next time you’re feeling “not enough,” or “don’t have enough,” reach for a thought of abundance. Of “ENOUGH.” It doesn’t matter what the thought is. The point is that you just want to feel “enough” of something so you can experience what it’s really like to live with that joyful feeling.
When you feel the heavy hand of stress weighing down on you, find something that makes you FULL. Full of love, confidence, joy, respect, experience, knowledge, eternity, whatever it is that eases your mind and calms your spirit.
Stress can be measured in many ways.
You probably know when stress is starting to take center stage in your own life. When your level of performance drops and your focus becomes skewed.
I have recognized stress in my own life when I’ve felt:
* constant shallowness of breath
* a confusion of the mind that swings from panic to excessive crying to depression
* self- questioning or doubt
Others may know that they’re under stress when they console themselves with food, alcohol, or drugs to feel better; to simply find respite from the ongoing pressures that they are experiencing.
As much as stress is an unwelcome visitor, in times when we think we couldn’t possibly handle any more of life’s challenges, it’s wise to look at stress as a gift; one that’s been given to help us recognize the best way to live our lives in peace and harmony.
Small amounts of stress can be a good thing if you learn to use it for your benefit. If you allow it to teach you what really works for you in your life, and what doesn’t.
Our bodies are programmed with a built-in response system that allows for physiological changes to cope with stressful situations. This is called the “fight or flight” response, and it comes in handy when we’re being chased by an abductor or in other emergency situations. But, it’s unnatural and dangerous for the body to undergo stress after stress, for long periods of time. When this happens, our health and emotional lives are at risk.
Aside from the rare encounter with a legitimate fear or stress, in the course of our normal lives there is really not much that we need to be getting so upset over.
The next time you feel stressed, ask yourself these questions:
- Will this thing that I’m stressed over really matter much in a month, a year, 5 years?
- Do I really need this responsibility in my life?
- What is it that I REALLY WANT to consume my life?
- What is the worst that can happen here, and is it really as bad as I’ve perceived it to be?
- Will letting go of this issue allow for better things to come into my life?
- Will facing this fear or problem, head on, help me to focus on ways that I AM taking charge of my own life? Will it show me what I’m doing that IS working?
- Are these the type of people who I want to surround myself with?
- Am I placing too many demands on myself and being unrealistic about what is humanly possible?
- When I search my heart for the answers to my concerns, what does it tell me?
Stress and its symptoms can be a window to the life that you are meant to live. When it comes calling, answer with what is in your heart. Tell stress that you are ready to purge old fears, habits, people, jobs, thoughts of “not enough,” feelings of “not good enough,” and anything else that is not allowing you to experience the love of life that you were meant to experience.
Let me help you to find a quiet place within yourself where you can thank stress for stopping by, and absolve it of any power over your life.
My Stress Feedback Coaching session is the perfect venue for tapping into how you are presently dealing with the stress in your life, and for uncovering what it is that you really want to be consuming your life. Contact me if lowering at least your blood pressure helps.
You are in control now. You always have been. It’s time to take the next step and show yourself who’s in charge. With my help, you can easily Adapt2Change and carve out the life of your dreams. I want you healthy and not tossing and turning all night.
Curt Canada, Board Certified Coach advises and coaches clients at Adapting2change in Washington DC and nationally via Skype.